Monday, 11 November 2013

SPEAK THE TRUTH, EVEN IF YOUR VOICE SHAKES.


Faster and faster....panic! Is this it? Is this how it will end? “What do you want me to say!” he screamed at me. 

The truth, only the truth.

Yesterday, a client had come, telling of tragedy, telling of devastation to his family, a sister’s death.  Was that story prophetic of my end?   The same stretch of road, a 4X4 under the control of a raging mind, hiding from truth.

Home...my safe place; no longer his. 

He jumped out, fists raised to the heavens and raged,” Fine! I did it! 
Are you happy now?”

(My Story)

So much can be hidden and according to Lissa Rankin, MD when we stuff down our truth, wear masks and allow ourselves to be silenced; our body reacts, it whispers to us that something is wrong and when no response is certain, it yells ...and we suffer from pain and illness. Back problems, headaches, insomnia etc. are often emotional symptoms.

Our practical beliefs, real faith and truth are within us; we have a responsibility to embrace them but we do not always have complete conscious awareness of them and their capacity to impact our lives.
 

 


The process of counselling helps us explore our inner world and in the course of that honesty we will come to realize “truth” as a living grace, as an acceptance of self and not only as an intellectual concept.

So many of us are fearful of telling others our deepest experiences and thoughts, but as we delve into our inner world, we are sometimes amazed at what gems are present.  These gems lead us forward and help us to gain perspective of who we really are...when we are not wearing masks for others’  benefit...we can really love ourselves, just for who we are.

We don’t have to lie.

We understand that others may lie about us but the truth never wavers.

Did you know that when you tell a lie, that deception at its psychological core, is an act of aggression? One of the most subtle but yet effective ways to lie is lying by omission.  A very skilled manipulator might even deliver a story of very true facts but then (unbeknown to you) deliberately leaves out a key element that would shed an entirely new light on the truth of a situation.  This is done to create an impression and manipulate the outcome.

I have experienced this and have learnt that the impression left by the footsteps of dishonesty cannot gain power over me, if I walk in truth. It is important to track our pain back to its origins and see it honestly for what it was.

Hugs to all who have walked the path of divorce.

XXxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxMargs

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